Good Gentles,

There are many gentles in the SCA who have disabilities, from back pain to the lack of one of the five senses. I write here from what I know, which is blindness. However, any of these are easily adapted to any gentle with any disability.

You will find much humor and silliness in what I write. This is on purpose. If we can't laugh at ourselves, then what are we?

1. _Offer, don't give, your aid._
If you see me about to walk off a bluff, yell "HOLD!" However, five people all yelling directions to the door is distracting, and it's dangerous, too! Ask me if I need help, and I will tell you. I may say yes, or I may say no, but I will thank you for your kindness and courtesy just the same.

2. _Don't be afraid to ask questions._
Many of you learned not to ask questions when, as a child, you were reprimanded for asking about the Lady in the Wheelchair. Now you are an adult who doesn't know what to do about the Lady in the Wheelchair. Break the cycle: Learn! It's OK if kids ask questions too. I like kids. I like answering their questions.

3. _It's my responsibility first._
A competent person who knows they need accommodations should ask for them politely--and give enough advance notice that they need them.

4. _I'm a Lady, not a Thing._
Especially not a Poor, Sweet, Innocent Little Thing! Please don't pity me, or "mother" me. I am and wish to remain your equal. It's OK to laugh with me, too. Sometimes, it's funny being blind!

5. _Every Person is Unique._
I'm not like any other blind person I know! What was difficult for your blind friend in school may be easy for me. Or impossible.

6. _My Cane/Wheelchair is part of my body._
If you wouldn't grope *me*, don't play with my "eyes". Or even if you would!

7. _Some disabilities are invisible._
My Lord has hidden disabilities that can be fatal, but everyone worries about me? Don't judge a book by its cover. I don't!

8. _Walk a mile with your eyes closed._
Or put a pebble in your shoe and walk that mile with a cane. Just, please be careful! I have a lifetime of training. You are an amateur!

9. _Let me go at my own pace._
I have proven I can wash more dishes by hand than six *men* can with a dishwasher. ;) Don't slow me down. I take longer to find my way around. Don't hurry me.

10. _Sometimes, it's an advantage._
*pout* Nobody wants to play Blind Man's Bluff with me anymore....

If this seems like a lot, just remember to practice courtesy, patience, and a sense of humor. The last most of all!